Post Breakup Struggle Tip #2: Don't Over-Examine the Details

After talking to a few good people and getting a handle on the situation, you have to commit to not over examining the details. Don't think about your relationship, don't think about your ex. Remembering detailed scenes and conversations will only intensify your sense of loss and increase any negative feelings you might be dealing with. Don't look at old messages or pictures. If you are sure--without a false hope--that the relationship is over, delete/hide/destroy (whatever the case may be) everything. Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest, phone number, email, everything.

Why?

To teach yourself to let go and eliminate an attachment that has now become unhealthy. It won't take long for you to feel glad that you took this bit of advice.

Delete friends and avoid certain social scenes and circles, if you have to. You want to be even-tempered and focused on having a good future--not one spattered by the wreckage of a relationship that, actually, no longer exists. The details have lost their worth. Besides, forgetting makes it easier to forgive.

10 Tips for the Post-Breakup Struggle: Preface

Too much sunlight!!! But...I still like this picture.

I cannot say that I am the best at avoiding relationships that quickly go south. Each time I have agreed to date someone, it was always done with sincerity and with an end-goal in mind. Most of us are like that. We're careful, methodical. We hope and pray. A lot.

But it happens: We experience a breakup at some point and realize the crap has hit the fan.

While I may not be able to talk about what it's like to get it right when choosing to date someone, I feel reluctantly qualified in the post-breakup department.

So, read my next 10 posts, if you know the struggle (I'd like to meet someone over the age of 17 who doesn't). The following tips can be followed in order or simultaneously. They really work, I've got to say; it's proven every time one of my friends say to me, "You really do seem so much happier!" 

Here's a list of what you have to look forward to.

10 Tips for the Post-Breakup Struggle:

1. Talk enough to the right people.
2. Do not over examine the details.
3. Transform your emotional energy.
4. You are not a victim!
5. Take what was good and leave the rest.
6. Disown emotionally perturbed thoughts and own your reality.
7. Recite repetitive prayers spontaneously.
8. Jesus is too present in your life for you not to be okay.
9. Jesus, I trust in You!
10. It's a process.

2015: So Far, So Good

I added up my earnings for 2014, and I realized I'd made about the same amount I'd made in 2013. 

It's time to up the ante. 

This year, I want to see my income double, if not triple. So I went ahead and set my monthly, weekly, and daily income goals in order to achieve the yearly income I am after. 

If you haven't made time to do that yet, make sure you do it soon. Get back into the swing of things with your eyes on a solid monetary goal. Your income doesn't have to be as low as it was last year!

Apart from the financial side of things, how is your 2015 going so far?

I decided to evaluate the last 10 days, and I've decided that I've had an awesome start. I've been running (metaphorically) hard from the time midnight hit on the 1st of January. Hopefully, you'll begin to see the little baby ideas I have for myself take flight in the next few months because I've been working hard on setting myself up for success in 2015. I've been masterminding, improving this blog, choosing and building up new streams of income, preparing to phase out old ones, and working on being more organized and systematic. I'll be able to share some life-changing systematizing methods with you all some day soon.

(1,000 pageviews at last!)

On the faith, fun and health side of things, I've been able to go to Mass a few times, and I got to go to Adoration with the Catholic Apolos and introduce someone to the concept of wearing the veil. We also got to have a study session on the Eucharist. 

(Homeschool sessions)

I've been reading The Borrowers with my youngest siblings and doing some homeschooling with them, and I even had a friend and her daughter over for a homeschooling sesh!

(My brother working on his spelling skills)

I did three 10-minute yoga sessions by myself this week, which really helps me loosen up (yoga stretches are great for those of us who don't have much muscle or endurance, haha). I attended an open mic, I walked and swam at the beach, I attended a couple of fun fundraisers with my friends, and now I'm just hoping you got some kind of value out of this blog post.

(Thursday Night Open Mic at Java Junction)

(Fujita Beach)

(Cranberry juice with a splash of vodka. Yum!)

I guess I'm just counting my blessings!

It's within your power to create a powerful and happy 2015!